Article by Kavya Parnami
True love is very rare to find these days as most of the relationships last for not more than a year or so. Reason for most of the break ups these days is cheating of one of the partner. Every relation face ups and down and during that phase it is natural to have a liking for someone else who supports us during those difficult times but that does not mean that the relationship is losing its fire. Many of us get carried away at those times and lose our true love because of our stupidity. This article will depict the top ten reasons that arouse in us the urge to cheat. One should try and avoid these reasons which may incline us to cheat on our partner, so that we do not lose the one meant for us because of our foolishness.
10. REVENGE
Revenge or we can say “An eye for an eye” is the most common reason what makes us cheat on our other half. If our partner abuse us or keep hurting us every now and then, then obviously we will think of some way of getting back to them. And the most common is cheating on them as it will hurt them the same way, like we have been anguished by them. Also, if the partner is cheating on us, then a feeling of revenge is likely to arouse in us which will make us cheat on them. It is basically the punishment which we want to give them for all that which we have suffered which makes us screw our relationship.
9. THRILL
Sometimes, just for the sake of some excitement, we cheat on our partner. We like creating thrill moments in our life such as risking getting caught, running around secretly and many more other situations that are included in a forbidden romance. It is the thrill of cheating that we want to enjoy which makes us deceit our partner. We start lying to our partner, go out on dates with the other person without telling our partner and sometimes we even get intimate with that someone else. But, we do not even consider it cheating on our partner. According to us, it is only for enjoyment purpose, which is actually cheating on our partner.
8. CONFUSION
Many a times we are confused whether we actually love our other half or it is just infatuation. This may also lead to cheating as we are not sure of our relationship with the other person. As it is said, we realize the importance of something, when it is lost. Same goes with relationships, as we realize how much importance our partner holds in our life when he or she is gone. Confusion can be in the form of doubt also. Doubting that our partner is having another affair makes us helpless and may lead to cheating on our partner. Thus, confusion also serves a reason which has the capability to destroy our relationship.
7. BORED
Another common reason that leads to cheating is boredom in relationship. The spark that is at the starting of relationship, starts diminishing gradually and we start taking our partner for granted. Usually when a relationship starts, then we frequently go out on dates, have late night talks, exchange gifts and do a lot more things to make the other person feel special and to express our feelings. But as time passes by, it becomes tough to keep that edge. Things that have started in a grand way, starts to level off and at that instant when we meet someone else, that inaugural exhilaration of a new relationship springs back in which influence us to cheat.
6. EMOTIONAL DISSATISFACTION
Most of the relationships fail or force us to cheat on our partner, due to emotional dissatisfaction from the other person. The soul support that carries on a relationship is how two people are attached emotionally, how much they understand each other and most importantly how much they support each other. If the other person does not understands us appreciates us and is not there for us when we need him or her the most, then it tends to detach us from him or her. Emotional needs include only valuing the other person and if our partner is not able to fulfill it, we happen to cheat on our partner for the one who looks up to us, compliment or praises us and with whom we feel worthy.
5. LACK OF ATTENTION
Giving time to our partner is very essential if we want our relationship to be long term. When the other person is always busy and is not able to spend enough time or is mistreating us, then we want to get away from her or him. But sometimes, due to the abusive and extra possessive nature, we are not able to and thus we feel trapped in an abusive and bad relationship. At that point, it is natural that we will run to someone who treats us well and cares for us. This is how, mistreatment of our partner incline us to cheat on him or her.
4. LACK OF INTIMACY
Intimate moments that we share with our partner are an integral part of a relationship. Lack of intimacy and fun in a relationship has the tendency to make us cheaters. Kissing, cuddling and sex plays an important part to keep our partner attracted towards us. But many a times due to extra work load or problems that we face in our life every now and then, vanishes the intimacy between partners. As a result, we are bound to cheat on our partner in order to feel wanted. Also, many people cheat to experiment sexually with other people as it makes them feel sexually powerful and proficient than others.
3. EXIT STRATEGY
Sometimes we just fall out of love in a relationship. When we do not want to hurt our partner as he or she is seriously involved with us, we usually cheat intentionally. It is like a planned exit strategy to make it easy for our partner to overcome the grief and all the memories of the relationship. It is basically showing the other person that we are not the right one for them so that the other person breaks up with us. Though it is not right, but many a times we tend to do this to end a relation without making the other person know that we do not love him or her anymore as it would hurt them more than cheating.
2. CONFORMATION OF ATTRACTIVENESS
We also may cheat in certain cases, just to confirm our attractiveness. When we have been in a relationship for many years, it is significant that our partner will not compliment us that often. It may make us wonder whether we are still attractive or not. So, just to confirm it or to boost up the self esteem we start having another affair. This will obviously prove that we have the ability to attract a new person, but it will end our relationship with the one who loves us a lot.
1. BECAUSE OUR PARTNER LET US CHEAT
Once a cheater, is always a cheater. It is the most common and true saying for all the people who cheats in a relationship. When our partner forgives us for cheating on him or her once, he or she is losing respect in our eyes and then we continue to cheat because we know that the other person will eventually take us back and we will thus get away with our cheating. Forgiving a cheater is like putting up with it which starts a vicious cycle. So, it gets in the mind of people that when the other person is letting us cheat then why miss a chance which thence leads to cheating.
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