by elenakostyugova
What Is Mindset?
One of the definitions I found in Google says
·
A fixed mental attitude or disposition that predetermines a
person’s responses to and interpretations of situations.
·
An inclination or a habit.
I disagree with the word ‘fixed’. I believe an ‘attitude’ is not
fixed. Sure a lot of people have a certain attitude that’s been there for a
long time and seems to be ‘fixed’. But the truth is it can be changed, if a
person wants to change it.
That’s pretty much what I do all week, I help people change
their attitudes towards certain things. So in my opinion, attitude and mindset
are not fixed.
If Google asked me to define Mindset, I would say “It’s
a mental attitude or disposition that predetermines a person’s responses to and
interpretations of situations, and it can be changed to serve the person’s
needs.”
Wikipedia says that MIND is frequently used as
synonymous with THOUGHT, it’s the private conversation with
ourselves that carry on ‘inside our heads’. Thus we ‘make up our minds’,
‘change our minds’ or are ‘of two minds’ about things.
The way I read this is if you can ‘change your mind’, it means
you can change your attitude. Wouldn’t you agree?
How Can You Change Your Attitude (Mindset)?
Your attitude is based upon a set of thoughts automatically
running in your mind.
Your thoughts are created from your beliefs.
If you hold a belief that you are never going to be slim / be
successful in business / be totally healthy / have enough time
/ have enough money , then every thought you have confirms that negative
belief… even the things you pay attention to around you confirm that belief
because your brain doesn’t want to appear to be lying to you… so your reticular
activating system in the brain is noticing all the evidence that supports that
belief, turning it into a perpetual loop.
If you believe that life is supposed to be hard, it will be. If
you believe that every person is a bastard, they are. If you believe that you
have to work hard to make a lot of money, you do.
If you believe you can build a happy
relationship with your partner, you really can. If you believe you can do
what you love and make money, you really can.
Don’t they say “You get what you expect”? And “If you believe
you can or if you believe you can’t, you are right.”
It’s true because a person who believes that he is never going
to be slim has an entirely different conversation inside his head to a person
who believes he can.
One person will be looking for continuous confirmation (internal
and external) of how great they are doing losing weight and eating healthy;
while the other will be looking for confirmation how it doesn’t work, never
worked and will never work.
In order to change your thoughts, you must change your
beliefs.
When you change your beliefs, you change your thoughts, and
therefore your attitude.
Most people try to change their thoughts on the level of
thoughts. They get to a point where not-changing becomes more painful than
changing and they try to switch their negative thinking into positive. It
doesn’t work! It’s painful and frustrating.
Positive thinking is on the opposite side of negative and it’s a
too far reach for a person who is holding on to the old negative belief that
has created the negative thinking in the first place.
Only when you change your belief, you change your
thoughts. You will go up the upward spiral and the positive change will
ripple out. When you change your belief, you don’t have to ‘try’ to think
positively anymore. It comes naturally because it comes from a much deeper
place than your thoughts.
Your new thoughts will trigger new emotions and new actions,
which will automatically confirm and strengthen your new belief.
If you want to change anything in your life, CHANGE YOUR
BELIEFS.
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