Article by Abhilasha
Everybody in this world looks for people who will suit them the best. Everybody has a different choice of people and different needs suit them. But there are surely some characteristics which everybody avoids in people. These features are such which people don’t want in people surrounding them, specially their partners. They are a variety of qualities which are not liked by people. Like, how many partners lie about themselves, how they hide stuff. Or it can be the way a partner talks, gets rude etc. There are many instances when one partner is made to change because of the others demands. There is no way this should happen. One should remain how they are. These people are, hence, never really dated or if are, they are left. Here is a list of 10 kinds of people one should never date.
10. Partners who control and boss around
Such people are bossy by nature. When you first meet this person, you might think this character trait is cute, for awhile. And that he is attentive. Next thing which happens is that this person places every word and move of yours under intense check. You are pin pointed about everything. Your movie choices are never appreciated, the menu you order is always criticized. The control is to the extent that what you wear is commented upon too. After a while, you realize the control is too suffocating and it leaves you no space to breathe in independence. Hence, the best is to not continue being with such people who just order you around.
9. Partners Demanding Change
These kinds of people are found everywhere and are the types of partner most people are scared of. There are a few, who like such people as they are too desperate to date or are very insecure of being left again. They claim they love the partner just as they are but slowly slowly, little by little change everything about their partner. They have a critical ego and comment on everything demanding change. From your wardrobe, to the people you hang out with, they change it all. Nothing works for them, which is your choice. The first thing to go after a few dates with them is your self-esteem. You are surely a loser in their eyes and if you don’t get away fast, you yourself start finding yourself one. Sometimes, the partner is sternly told that certain things will not change. If they understand, well and good but when that doesn’t work, you suffer.
8. Partners who are too dependent
These kinds of people are very difficult to date. Initially, these people seem very sweet and attractive. They make the person feel that they are so into their partner. They start feeling special. But in a while, the feelings change. One feels overwhelmed and suffocated by such partners. They can’t even decide what to wear for dinner, let alone any other important decisions regarding life. These partners are dependent on you for all decisions, for all tiny little things. Such people want you to be the person who decides everything in their life but you got to leave this soon. Or you will just remain the person who is managing their lives all day and night.
7. Partners who love Money
They are only concerned about the money. From the moment you meet, they start looking at your car, house, watch, wardrobe, professional success. These people just want to get close to you for the sake of your money. They may start liking you eventually, but even this “liking” is based on the money you posses. You slowly, start feeling you are just a bank account providing all the financial help to your materialistic partner. Avoid getting into such a relation and if you have gotten into one, you need to end it as soon as possible. If you don’t realize you are dating a money minded person, you will be left with nothing in the end, no money, and no honey.
6. Partners who are double faced
This Partner might look all smiles and happy from the outside but there is a deeper person inside. The nicer they are on the outside, the meaner they actually are. Their outward behavior is all sober but the inner is not. Their attitude isn’t good. They are cranky and shout with no reason at all. They are mean and look for reasons to fight. They are rude. And their conduct is not good. Till the time they are given importance, it is okay, but after that they are not to be handled easily. They slowly become more of a burden which one needs to let go off.
5. Partners with Ego
These partners are too smart. If anybody has any doubt, they always have all the answers. These kinds of people can never make you forget how brilliant they are. They are constantly reminding you about how good they are and that to at everything. They are confident and hence you are initially attracted to them. Their certain charm, their attitude is all very pleasing at first. Its only after a while it starts getting onto your nerves. These people forget to be human like. They pass rude comments and hurt peoples sentiments. They keep on talking, mostly about themselves. They are people who want to show you down in every conversation no matter what. You will realize you are not made for one another when you start feeling boring in his company and you feel you are worth nothing at all. Once you recognize this, just leave the egoistic person and go away
4. Partners who are good friends
Sometimes you date people out of pity or just because they are too nice. One needs to stop that, as these relationships are short term. These may invoke some liking but you can’t expect to fall in love and get married to this kind of a person. Just because they were around when you needed help, and they understand you really well does not mean they are meant for you. You need to stop dating such people and realize they are best kept as friends. Otherwise, it won’t be long before you break their hearts in pieces as they may just have fallen for you.
3. Partners who are negative
One needs to avoid people with too negative an attitude. These people initially seem nice as they like no other person as much as they love you. But this is not a very healthy habit. Such people dismiss all people you talk to them about. They will surely find some fault or the other with others. They just won’t praise any one. This slowly starts getting onto you. This happens when you already can predict their dismissive replies. This is the sign you need to look out for. When this starts happening, it’s a bad signal. This negative attitude gets rubbed onto the other partner also, which is even worse. You need to either start telling your partner to see the bright side too and not let the negative aspects rub on you or you need to leave such a person.
2. Partners who are disrespectful
These People cannot value you for what you are. They think they are better in everything and hence get rude. They shout at you, disrespect you. And it’s not just you, your choices and your family is looked down upon too. This is when it gets too much. When you are dating a person, it should be based on mutual understanding that people can have different choices but that doesn’t mean one has to look down at the others choices. There is no way that they can talk about your family or the things you like in a disrespectful manner. They make you feel ashamed and hesitant. No. You should be at your most comfortable around them. Your must be you and still must be happy and leave rude people.
1. Partners we date for experiment
People who are too possessive are not to be dated. These people initially seem to be too into you and this gives you a feeling that you are special, way too special. They want to know where you are, what you are doing, who are you with. All this gets too much after a life. They start irritating you. They stop you from meeting other people, or doing stuff which makes them feel insecure. There can be people who are insecure due to previous heartbreaks. But this does not mean they act like maniacs. There is a certain limit to how much you can control one’s life. These people should be avoided. These people get too annoying after a while.
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